My dad left Iraq after he was called up to be an army doctor under Saddam Hussein’s regime, which meant he would have to be part of either committing or covering up torture. He actually left without telling my mother, as escaping an army conscription was a major offence which could get your family in a lot of trouble. He just said he was going on a trip, and it wasn’t until the first letter was smuggled to her from a friend that she found out he had escaped to Australia by boat. After he was released . . .