(Part 2 of 2) When my daughter was born, I became very depressed. I had a kind of existential crisis, facing a lot of gender related issues, like: If this is my child, am I a female? Do I really feel like I am a mother? I have a lot of memory blanks from that time.

When my daughter was eight months old, I left. It was a very difficult decision, because being South African, family is so important to me. And my ex-wife was and is such a good person.

My next girlfriend, had so much insight in to life. She basically said to me, ‘You’re a trans man.’ And I was like, ‘Wow, I am.’

It took me three months after that to start my transition, get onto testosterone, get a masculine haircut and put on… More